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Here is another set of surprising statistics about men and violence. The information comes from my book, The One Rule For Boys:
In 2008, men were seven times more likely to commit murder than women. When a woman is a victim of homicide, her intimate partner is the killer 41.5% of the time. From 1995 though 2010, 2.1 out of every 1000 women in the U.S. had been sexually assaulted. In other words, a woman's chance of being sexually assaulted by a man during that time-frame was 1 in 476. By contrast, that same woman's chance of dying by getting run over by a car when crossing the street was about 1 in 749. It was more dangerous to hang around a man than to cross the street.
According to the National Safety Council, the following are the five most dangerous activities in which a woman can engage, from most to least dangerous (and factoring out illness):
1. Intentionally harming herself (for example, attempting suicide)
2. Riding in a car
3. Accidentally exposing herself to noxious substances (like carbon monoxide)
5. Living with a man.
So that's the bad news. But, there is good news too. Incidents of domestic violence are decreasing. There is plenty of room for improvement, but at least the numbers are moving in the right direction.
Also, the overwhelming bulk of of psychological research points to a simple idea: it is possible to raise boys who grow into strong, respectful men who are in control of their behavior and who treat women with dignity and respect.
The key is to teach boys to be empathic. In my book, I examine the research that explains why and how emotional understanding has such a powerful effect on a boy's life, and I describe in detail the steps involved in the teaching process. Almost every boy can learn it, and it has the power to change his life in countless ways.
Together, we can raise a new generation of boys who are happy, successful, strong, and respectful.